Trigger Warning
I'd been out barely two months when my intro to public health class the professor actually made the disclaimer, “This is a safe space. If anyone is feeling emotionally triggered, feel free to step into the hall.” I laughed out loud, I honestly thought she was making a joke. No one else laughed. It was completely serious. We were given trigger warnings many more times that class, and every time I had try to contain my inappropriate laughter. It always seemed like an obscene joke to me.
Trigger warnings make me cringe. Where was my trigger warning for my first strip search? That one, and the 200 that followed, actually included the phrase, “Spread your cheeks and cough.” Where was my trigger warning before being made to use the toilet in an open room in front of total strangers? Where was my trigger warning before prison guards decided their default mode of communication would be irate screaming? I DIDN’T GET ONE. Nevertheless, I survived.
Prison is not a safe space. I could not demand to be treated with dignity by the staff. I couldn’t complain that they’d spoken to me disrespectfully. It’s prison. I couldn’t request a private bathroom or opt out of a groping pat down. I got “emotionally triggered” many times until eventually I became desensitized and none of it fazed me anymore.
I still can’t take it seriously. My exposure to extremely uncomfortable things made me strong, and shielding yourself from discomfort can only lead to weakness. Or maybe I’m just calloused and desensitized.
It seems preposterous that as a society we invest so many resources in making campuses safe spaces but we have systematic policies to make prisons unsafe, lacking in respect and dignity.